Da Minimists.

This is from the relationship with people chapter.

It's my favorite chapter in the book.

So in the book, we talk about healing, the seven essential relationships in our life.

And we talk about some virtues.

We talk about how to understand other people.

And Ryan and I go into depth about appreciating people, respecting people, etc.

Some sort of virtues that are in our life.

But then there are these other things that we perceive to be virtuous in our society.

But we like to argue that they are overrated virtues.

These are called the 13 overrated virtues, this is from page 275.

Now that we've surveyed the most pertinent qualities of worthwhile relationships,

we must also consider the virtues we've been acculturated to believe are noble,

but are often overrated.

First one is loyalty.

Yes, it is important to be loyal to loved ones, but loyalty alone is typically misguided

and may even degrade your relationships by creating a smoke screen between rationality and reality.

Being loyal is fine, but loyalty at the expense of integrity is detrimental to a relationship.

Let's talk about loyalty for a second, because quite often in many cultures,

we hold it up as the number one virtue, so much so that we sometimes get blinded by either being loyal

or the need for loyalty, unearned loyalty from other people.

And sometimes we manipulate the people in our lives through unfounded appeals to loyalty.

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