Loving Your Different Child :: Sally and Nathan Clarkson [Ep 149]

Don't Mom Alone Podcast

Kids & Family, Leisure, Parenting, Education

5 • 2.3K Ratings

🗓️ 23 January 2017

⏱️ 55 minutes

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Summary

“God didn’t give me a child so I could tell Him exactly my expectations of how that child should be. You have to say ‘God show me how to love the child you gave me and how to release him within his limitations and personalities into their world as a healthy human being.'”

-Sally Clarkson.

You’ve heard Sally come on the podcast and share how to own your life (Ep 54) and how to create a life-giving home (Ep 107). Today she’s back on the show with her adult son, Nathan Clarkson. This time we’re talking about learning to love our kids’ outside-the-box differences. Trusting mom intuition and believing God uniquely designed each of our kids for a purpose.

Sally and Nathan share stories from his childhood. And offer helpful tips for casting vision over your children. I found Sally’s thoughts on holding ideals but letting go of expectations very helpful.

“Give up expectations. But lead family to ideals. Don’t give up on ideals. They are shaping the core of your children’s values.”

Thankfully Sally and Nathan have written a much-needed resource on this topic, “Different: The Story of an Outside-the-Box Kid and the Mom Who Loved Him.” **

What we chat about:

When you start to notice your child is different (Sally)
When the child begins to notice he/she may be different (Nathan)
When you want to sympathize & parent inner needs but told to discipline external behavior.
Creating a space allowing your child to be themselves and belong.
How Jesus treated people differently with the same love.
How to cast vision over your children.
How to turn differences into superpowers.
Creating rhythms in your home.
Holding ideals while letting go of expectations.
How differences impact family dynamics.
Orchestrating breaks for moms of children with differences.
Things that helped Nathan as a teenager who knew he was different.

Links Mentioned:

“Different: The Story of an Outside-the-Box Kid and the Mom Who Loved Him.” **
The Lifegiving Home **
“Did you not know that it is the kindness and mercy of God that leads to repentance.” Romans 2:4

**Amazon Affiliate Link

Transcript

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0:00.0	You're listening to episode 149 of the God Center Mom Podcast with me, Heather McFadden.
0:10.0	And today I'm chatting with Sally and Nathan Clarkson about loving your different child.
0:15.0	God didn't give me a child so that I could tell him my expectations of exactly what my children would be.
0:21.0	You have to say, God show me how to love the child that you gave me and how to release them within their limitations and personality into their world as a healthy human being.
0:33.0	You always pushed us to the best we could be fully aware of the limitations we had.
0:39.0	It's, yeah, it's attention.
0:41.0	God never asks us to be something we can't. He just asks us to take what we have, to love the fishes, and he will do the rest, but to be the best we can with what we have.
0:50.0	Sally is back on the show. You all remember her from episode 54. She talked about owning your life in 107. She helped us with creating a life giving home.
1:00.0	Well, now she's back on with her adult son, Nathan Clarkson. And they've just recently written a book called Different.
1:08.0	And it's conversation about loving that outside the box child.
1:13.0	Sally and Nathan share vulnerability about their journey. Sally discovering that Nathan had ADHD, OCD, anxiety, and how to love him in the midst of all that and not only love him, but help him become an adult, recognizing his greatness within those limitations, just like they just talked about.
1:35.0	I also love how Sally frames up holding onto your ideals while letting go of your expectations. That was super helpful to me when I'm sometimes holding onto my expectations and letting go of my ideals.
1:49.0	I know you all are going to enjoy this conversation whether you have a child who has a diagnosis or don't.
1:56.0	I feel like each of my children are different in some way and I've had to come to grips with where they don't fit in the box and love them in spite of it.
2:04.0	I've had to love our family as a whole and help us do things that I think are important, even if it doesn't look like I sometimes think it should.
2:15.0	I also wanted to remind you all about the podcast club. You've been so great. So many of you, 500 different leaders have signed up to host podcast clubs across the world.
2:24.0	If you want information, go to godsendermom.com, backslashpodcastclub. It's totally free. You get emails and I will send you a link with a password to get PDFs of the content.
2:36.0	There's three different sets of curriculum available. Each set is six weeks worth of episodes and discussion questions. And you pick the place, you pick the people, you pick how often you meet.
2:48.0	I just provide the content. There's even a set for couples. If you're in a small group, co-ed small group, we kind of curated some episodes that were related to parenting and marriage.
3:03.0	So go to godsendermom.com, backslashpodcastclub for more info. All right, let's get to my conversation with Sally and Nathan. Here we go.
3:12.0	Hey, Sally and Nathan, welcome to the godsendermom podcast. Hi, we're so excited to be with you, Heather.
3:21.0	This is going to be fun. And I love when I interview two people, especially when one is a woman and one is a man. So we'll know.
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