Loving Those Who Can't Love Us Back
Almost Adulting with Violet Benson
Violet Benson
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🗓️ 29 February 2024
⏱️ 29 minutes
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Summary
Hey Besties! For another Benson Book Club session, we’re going to dive deep into Why We Hold On Tightest on the Things That Aren’t Meant for Us from Brianna Wiest’s 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Violet shares her candid insights on navigating the complexities of relationships - from moving on from unrequited love and why we often find ourselves drawn to those who can't reciprocate our feelings to invaluable advice on finding peace and self-love amidst the chaos of modern romance. It's time to empower yourself and begin your journey to emotional freedom.
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What to Listen For:
- 00:00 Intro
- 05:07 How to let go of the things that’s killing you inside?
- 10:22 You can't convince someone to love you if they don’t
- 19:21 How do you fall out of love with the idea of someone?
- 24:13 Why do we keep choosing people who can’t love us back?
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| 0:00.0 | Love is not something you get. It's not something someone else has and something that you have to earn. |
| 0:07.0 | It is not something that exists outside of you when someone doesn't want to express affection and love and respect to you. |
| 0:15.2 | You have two choices. |
| 0:17.2 | You can try to change that fact and you know keep yourself stuck or you can keep giving love, which will actually help you move on. |
| 0:28.8 | The pain of not having love is the pain of your heart being closed. The pain of losing love is the pain of your |
| 0:35.0 | heart closing. The pain of losing love is trying to change or manipulate someone into thinking |
| 0:40.8 | or seeing you differently. It is not actually a loss of love. It is a step into |
| 0:47.8 | delusion and denial. It is the adoption of the idea that you are not lovable as you are. |
| 0:54.0 | Love is not something anybody can take away from you. |
| 0:58.0 | It is not something also that anybody can truly give you either. |
| 1:02.2 | It's not something that you get. It is something you |
| 1:06.2 | experience and that exchange requires an equal and honest and willing contribution on each side. It's not something that anybody is |
| 1:17.7 | responsible to do for you and it's not something that anybody owes you in a life. |
| 1:23.6 | The following podcast is a dear media production. |
| 1:26.5 | It's a vile event and your favorite meme queen and the big sitt who didn't ask for, |
| 1:30.4 | but see them. |
| 1:31.8 | Welcome to almost adulting. |
| 1:39.0 | Are you ready? |
| 1:40.0 | Hi everyone and welcome to a brand new almost adulting the largest |
| 1:44.1 | self-hop podcast and movement your number one destination for personal growth and |
| 1:47.9 | mental health I am your big sister and your host violetta and today I wanted to welcome you to what originally was supposed to be a Tuesday episode |
| 1:58.0 | but today you are getting it on a Thursday since on Tuesday I decided to release my interview with Sheena Shay from Vanderbilt |
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