Good evening, everybody. Welcome to the show. We got a great show plan for you. We're going to be talking about how to heal, work with anxious attachment style. That is because I'm seeing more and more of that coming through my clinical doors, more and more questions about it in my DMs. And it tends to be one of the more prevalent relational styles. We've talked on the show about attachment theory,

and you're going to hear more and more about it in culture, pop psychology.

There's lots of IG pages centered in it.

And for those not familiar with that word,

it tends to be those people that struggle with a lot of emotional regulation.

They tend to be perceived as clingy and needy,

always fearing abandonment,

um, always worried or anxious when they haven't been connected with or heard from their partner. And, um, that's why we call it anxious attachment. Their relational style is one of

anxiety. They never seem like they feel anxiety. They never seem like they feel

safe. They never seem like they feel confident. Nothing ever seems to be enough. And remember,

this isn't a mental health illness or disorder. It's the outcome of all the different kinds of

relationships that this person has been a part of.

Because remember, in our early relational life, that's when these things get set in place.

But there's still a flexibility to them.

These are not rigid, enduring, everlasting, never changing or changeable things.

In fact, we talk about earned secure attachment because secure attachment would be the people

that are very confident. They're very chill. They they make their needs known they can roll with the punches that's what

we're looking for it that's the kind of partner you ideally want and that's also the kind of partner

you ideally want to try to be and that can happen if you do the work but based on early relational

experiences this anxious attachment style either gets healed and resolved

through being around more present, consistent, reliable people, and you internalize that,

and you realize my needs will get met. I can trust people. Or the opposite. You continually are with

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