Good evening, everybody. Welcome to the show. Got a great show plan for you. This month is

child abuse awareness month. So we're going to kind of approach it from a different perspective.

I mean, let me just say it like this. If you think something, if you see something, speak up.

Child abuse is wrong. So we're not going to focus on that. I think we all

know what that looks like, but for those that aren't familiar, let's go through it. This applies to

adults and to children. There's physical abuse and then there's, uh, emotional and psychological abuse.

So, um, let me just get my thoughts together here. Okay. So physical abuse is hitting, slapping, spanking. And we know that that doesn't work. That is not good parenting. That's not a good way to teach a child how to regulate their feelings. Children need an adult to be regulated. But a lot of adults think, I need the child to regulate themselves so I can regulate.

And so I'm going to act completely over the top and dysregulated, even as an adult, and somehow expect this little child to do far better than I'm able to do.

Because here I am, unable to control myself around my child's lack of ability for them to control themselves.

So disregulated out of controlled children need the adult to anchor themselves first.

And when we control them because we can't control ourselves, which is what we're saying,

you're out of control and I'm feeling all sorts of different ways.

And when we try to manage that with abuse, spanking, hitting, slapping, what we're really

teaching them is fear.

They've learned no skills, and they're now just afraid of us.

And that's what helps them maybe keep themselves a little more grounded or anchored.

That's abuse.

And what you're really telling them is when you don't like what someone's doing, use violence.

So you're teaching them violence.

You're not teaching them regulation or emotional intelligence.

It's violence.

Now, what do the other forms look like?

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