Good evening, everybody. How are y'all doing? Welcome to the show. Got a great show plan for you.

We're going to be talking tonight about something that I was actually asked to circle back and drop

deeper into, which is what I'm always telling you all to feel free to do in our DMs, where you

drop both the questions you want answered, but also topics you want us to cover, things you want us to

drop back into. And so on said, hey, can you talk a little bit more about attachment theory? Now, for those that aren't familiar with it, it's a theory that

helps us understand why we are the way we are within relationships. And it's really about

intimacy and closeness and how we show up and what we can tolerate. We really wrap it around

in safety and trust. Are you able to trust? Are you, because it's about

our relationship to others and others' relationship to ourselves. And it's really looking at how

our early dynamic with our primary caregivers sets us up to believe that people can be trusted

and are safe and can become a resource. And we either are very secure in that. And we don't worry.

We don't panic. We can tolerate disagreement and in that and we don't worry, we don't panic, we can tolerate

disagreement and absence and we don't imagine that we've been left or abandoned, or we're more

anxious, which means we are constantly worried that something might be wrong or off.

We don't feel safe when we haven't heard from them or connected with them.

We're afraid of abandonment.

That's the anxiety or the

avoidant, where we don't really know how to be present. We want to be close. We want to have

relationships, but they overwhelm us. We've been raising a family where we didn't, we weren't, we

weren't in relationships that were safe for us to be a part of, or to rely on or to lean into. And so as a result, we lean out. Anxiety-driven people, the anxiously attached are always kind of chasing, wanting more.

They're coming off as needy, codependent, where the avoided people seem distant, cold, and unavailable, but yet want to be.

And that's a distinction.

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