Good evening, everybody. How are you all doing? Starting the week off well. I always try to come in,

you know, big and happy, full of joy, a lot of laughing. You know, we have to have that psychological,

emotional flexibility. It's a skill that I teach all my clients constantly working on for myself,

which is the ability to really hold how we're

feeling a little loosely. You know, it's in our hands. It's kind of like when you're have something

hot in your hands and you're kind of popping it up and down as you're running over to the counter

to drop it. Our emotions have to be like that hot object in our hands. We're not holding on really

tight and grasping as though that's all there is. We're kind of bouncing it up and down. It's part of what we need to do

as humans in all the different relationships in which we exist. We have to honor, the good and the

bad. No toxic positivity. We're not talking about always looking for the silver lining because

that's not honest. That's not always even true. Sometimes things are just bad, but good things are happening at the same time.

And so sometimes it's about, you know, really honoring both directions.

Over there, I see the bad.

Over there, I see the good.

Both are happening at the same time.

I've shared this with you before.

We have these hyper academic terms for it.

But basically whole object versus self-object, this is coming out of object relations theory,

which I think is beautiful stuff.

But basically as humans, we struggle to see the good and the bad.

We love our best friend, right?

They're awesome.

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