Happy Easter, everyone. Spring has sprung, and the rabbits are at it like, well, like rabbits.

Which is exactly what Easter, the ancient pagan goddess of fertility, love and carnal pleasure would want.

So celebrate some passionate love, if you like, it's the right time of the year for it. But studies into love and

relationships do consistently show that those early highs are not sustainable. We can't live there

throughout the entire relationship. What starts as passionate love moves slowly towards

what we call companionate love. And although it's not the same and may actually be something that we

feel a bit of grief for, it's completely normal. For some, the passionate love stage lasts maybe a month. For others, it might last a year or so.

But long-term romantic relationships absolutely do not live in that space. But I totally get why people want it to, because it's a great distraction from everything else.

And if someone has mental health problems, they're going to

desperately try to hold on to that stage, because the next stage of companionate love, even

though it's a deeper relationship, maybe even more trusting, more affectionate, it's only an afterglow

rather than a nuclear bomb, so it's not so distracting.

But I totally get why people might feel that desperate need to get that early passionate stage back,

especially if they're insecure.

Because the meaning behind the transition isn't.

This is normal. This means we're getting closer. To an insecure person,

it becomes evidence that the other person must be pulling away and getting ready to abandon them

when it's literally the opposite. One theory by psychologist Robert Sternberg is that love is made up of three parts.

Passion, intimacy and commitment.

And he called it triangular theory because of it.

And like a recipe if you have flour, water and eggs, you can alter the amounts and make

pasta, pancakes or flatbread.

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