Love's Rough Draft: Rewriting Unhappy Marriages (aka Relationships Shouldn't Suck!)

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5 • 643 Ratings

🗓️ 17 May 2023

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

Tony dissects the article “Divorce Probably Won’t Make You Happier, Study Says” https://www.additudemag.com/happy-healthy-marriage-divorce-adhd-relationship-news/ (https://www.additudemag.com/happy-healthy-marriage-divorce-adhd-relationship-news/) and shares why phrases like “marital endurance” and “build a good and happy life despite a mediocre marriage” don’t exactly make for the best sales pitch for marriage. He shares what a “mediocre marriage” may be telling you and what a healthy relationship looks like as it matures. Use the following code to purchase the 2023 Sex Summit for only $35 featuring Tony's presentation: Relationship Tools You Don't Know You Need - Tips and Tools Born From 15 Years of Practice w/1500 Couples. https://thedatingdivas.myshopify.com/discount/TONY23?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fsex-seminar-2023 (https://thedatingdivas.myshopify.com/discount/TONY23?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fsex-seminar-2023)Or use the following code to purchase 2020, 2021, 2023, and 2024 seminars for only $80: https://thedatingdivas.myshopify.com/discount/TONYBUNDLE23?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fsex-seminar-2023-bundle (https://thedatingdivas.myshopify.com/discount/TONYBUNDLE23?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fsex-seminar-2023-bundle)Find all the latest links to podcasts, courses, Tony's newsletter, and more at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch (https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch)Inside ACT for Anxiety Disorder Course is Open! Visit https://praxiscet.com/virtualcouch (https://praxiscet.com/virtualcouch) Inside ACT for Anxiety Disorders; Dr. Michael Twohig will teach you the industry-standard treatment used by anxiety-treatment experts around the world. Through 6 modules of clear instruction and clinical demonstrations, you will learn how to create opportunities for clients to practice psychological flexibility in the presence of anxiety. After completing the course material, you'll have a new, highly effective anxiety treatment tool that can be used with every anxiety-related disorder, from OCD to panic disorder to generalized anxiety disorder.And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel to see a sneak preview of his upcoming podcast "Murder on the Couch," where True Crime meets therapy, co-hosted with his daughter Sydney. You can watch a pre-release clip here https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0 (https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0)Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384 (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384)Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop (http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop) to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com (http://pathbackrecovery.com/) And visit http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com/) and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ (https://descript.com/?lmref=bSWcEQ)

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0:00.0	Hey, everybody, before we get started with today's episode of the virtual couch, I wanted to make you
0:04.8	aware of a project that I have been chomping at the bit to tell you about, and the time is here.
0:09.9	So let me ask you, have you ever found yourself craving a deeper, more intimate connection
0:14.9	with your spouse? But you honestly aren't even really sure how to bring up certain topics.
0:19.7	That things get a little bit awkward, and so you typically tell yourself, oh, we'll talk about
0:23.1	them later.
0:23.6	And then that later really doesn't come.
0:26.1	And let me be very honest, we are talking about intimacy.
0:30.1	Now, we're not talking about verbal intimacy, although that is an absolute key to what
0:33.6	we are eventually landing the plane talking about today.
0:36.8	And we're not even talking about emotional intimacy, although again, absolutely a must comes right after verbal intimacy.
0:42.2	We are talking about physical intimacy.
0:45.3	Yes, we are talking about sex.
0:47.6	S-E-X, S to the X, we are talking about a topic that for so many people, which is so fascinating,
0:53.4	that we've never really
0:54.6	learned how to talk about it. And it is something that is very important and can be a wonderful
0:59.7	part of your relationship. So I was asked to take part in this year's, it's called the Sex Summit
1:05.7	2023. And I will be completely honest, I was asked to be a part of the summit last year, and I thought
1:10.9	it looked really good and promising, and I was asked to cover a really fun topic, and I put it off,
1:18.0	and I said, I will get to this later. And later, really didn't happen. So this year, as soon as I was
1:22.7	asked again, I was grateful to be asked, I jumped on the chance and I am one of 31 leading professionals
1:28.0	in the field of marriage and sex who are providing you with a resource that I really do feel
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