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Here's Chip Ingram with his message, Love Obey's.

I want to share a leadership lesson that I learned many, many years ago that really reshape my life,

and it's one that I have to keep on learning. On the very front of your notes, you'll notice I've written,

our expectations powerfully shape our relationships and our responses. Circle the word expectations.

Our expectations, they're so subtle. We have them

often. We don't even know what they are. I grew up in a home and no ladies feel guilty,

but my mom was really into breakfast at about 6.15 or 6.30, I could smell bacon and eggs every

single morning and our whole family ate breakfast together.

It was really wonderful.

Well, I got married, and I don't know why, but I just expected that we would have breakfast every morning.

And I, early in our marriage, after our honeymoon, I came home and said, breakfast, and she goes,

well, the cereal's up there.

I think there's smoking the refrigerator

and go to it it was like what i mean you don't understand it was just like now we never talked about now

when we get married you got to fix breakfast uh safe to say we don't do breakfast in our house quite like my mom.

By contrast, my wife had a father who was very handy.

He could fix just about anything, the car, the gas, the motor,

and so she actually had this expectation that me being a man and her

father being a man, that the car would be filled with gas. If it didn't work, I could fix it.

And so there's a carburetor in here somewhere. You know, I knew nothing. And she was like,

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