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It's

day, day, so we're asking you to think about your love language.

What is your love language?

The question has become almost as common in pop culture as what's your love language? The question has become almost as common in pop culture as

what's your sign? The date's all about love languages with gifts. It's not really

about monetary value. It's more about gestures where I know somebody's thinking about me when they're not around me.

That was a scene from the reality dating show The Bachelorette,

The Five Love Languages Theory on Relationships

that we all have specific ways we like to give and receive love has been around since the early 1990s.

Gary Chapman, a Baptist pastor, came up with the concept after counseling couples.

So eventually I took time to sit down and read and work through.

Probably 10 years of notes that I made when I was counseling and asked myself the question,

when someone said, I feel like my spouse doesn't love me,

what did they want?

What were they complaining about? And their answers fell into five categories.

Those five categories are gifts, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and as Oprah discovered,

words of information.

It says actions don't always speak louder than words if this is your love

language unsolicited compliments mean the world to you.

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