Love is Not Control- Podcast #718
Zen Pop
Todd and Cathy Adams
4.9 • 637 Ratings
🗓️ 11 July 2023
⏱️ 61 minutes
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Summary
Todd and Cathy discuss how co-opted therapy speak can make “love” more like control. They specifically discuss Jonah Hill’s ex-girlfriend sharing texts where he says he is enforcing his “boundaries” when he is actually giving her rules and ultimatums. They discuss how life is messy and everything is nuanced, and how Maya Angelou taught that love liberates, it doesn’t hold. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.
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(00:03:32) Three things
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| 0:00.0 | do do do do to do do do |
| 0:05.0 | do we go my name's Todd and this is Gabi welcome back to another episode of Zen |
| 0:09.3 | Parenting Radio this is podcast number 718 why listen to Zen Parenting Radio |
| 0:15.3 | because you'll feel outstanding and always remember our motto which is the best |
| 0:19.8 | predictor of a child's well-being |
| 0:20.9 | is a parent's self-understanding so um i'm going to share a few quick things and then also talk |
| 0:28.2 | about your zen parenting moment for a second sure but first why don't you tease the main topic |
| 0:32.7 | do you have any like william wallace like clips where he says freedom? |
| 0:39.0 | I don't. |
| 0:40.2 | But what's the opposite of freedom, sweetie? |
| 0:42.9 | Non-freedom? |
| 0:43.8 | Control, right? |
| 0:44.7 | Control. |
| 0:45.3 | Okay, that's good. |
| 0:46.1 | All right. |
| 0:46.4 | So this, it's funny because we'll have a quick discussion about this clip. |
| 0:50.0 | Okay. |
| 0:51.5 | I'm hoping you'll know what this is from. |
| 0:59.7 | Okay. I'm hoping you'll know what this is from. Control, control, you must go in control. |
| 1:04.7 | So that's a very nuanced choice. |
| 1:07.6 | I know, because Yoda is telling him to be in more control. Correct. And what we're going to |
| 1:12.5 | talk about is how certain behaviors of humans, they over control. So they, no, they try to |
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