I'm going to bring you into a sacred space.

It's a group text shared by me and two other single women where we discuss online dating.

I mean, I can definitely say this.

You're not unhappier.

Yeah.

After your break.

Yeah.

I just haven't women been complaining about dating men forever.

We call it the hinge debrief, and it's where we talk about who we're messaging, who

we're going on dates with.

It's also where we express our bafflement at some of the behavior we encounter in the

dating scene.

I think we need it because like dating creates a lot of, it like brings out a lot of personal

like insecurities and anxieties.

Despite our complaining, the reason we're out there going on dates is because of some

deep down belief that we want relationships.

We want partners.

We want to fall in love, and we think this will make our lives better, maybe even happier.

I'm Shayla Love, and you're listening to Scientific American Science Quickly.

We've been talking about love this week, and so far we've maintained a pretty basic

assumption that love is good, that love makes us happier.

But does it, and if so, does it bring the same amount of happiness to everyone?

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