Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

I have an important message for you today about language, about framing things, and frankly about

telling the truth to ourselves versus telling us lies that frankly make us miserable. Okay?

Loss doesn't make you a loser.

I don't think I can repeat that enough. Loss doesn't make you a loser. If you lose at something,

maybe it's as simple as a game, if you lose something in business, if you lose a person, if you lose or miss out on an opportunity, you are not a loser.

It is so easy to equate what happens or maybe an experience that we're having

inside of us or outside of us and make it us not true. Greatest, the awesome.

We identify with that thing.

And it's simply not true.

Greatest, the awesome website where I'm a columnist, they have this funny mean once, it said,

don't say you're fat, you're not fat, you have some fat on your body, you also have toenails. You don't say I am toenails.

Think about that for a second. I'm a loser. I don't even like saying that even in the context of this conversation where I need to state it.

Because there was an outcome that you didn't want or didn't desire does not make you a loser. It means that there was an outcome that took place that you didn't want.

That's it! The same way we can say, you know, I'm'm scared I'm depressed why wouldn't we say something more

true there are some feelings of fear in my body right now there's some depression within me right now. There are some

feelings of being very down, very low right now. You are not the thing. Whatever

follows I am follows you. I am is powerful. Do not abuse this. There's an old

saying in the Bible that the tongue is the sword. When we say I'm fat, I'm miserable, I'm depressed, I'm a loser, whatever it may be, you

identify as that thing and it's not you, right the same way you're not toenails.

It's simply that true.

When you actually speak accurately, you speak truth to what you're going through or what's happening or how you're feeling,

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