Losing Our Baby Broke Me, BUT I Never Told Her That feat. Mike Johnson

LOVERS by Shan

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Relationships, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Sexuality

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🗓️ 29 March 2023

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Up to 1 in 4 known pregnancies may end in miscarriage. For many of us, this stat is old news - but as we continue to have this conversation aloud after generations of keeping this pain private - what I do think is new is considering how the father feels about the loss. It seems like a no-brainer, but speaking from personal experience, it hadn’t really crossed my mind until recently. So, let’s talk about it with our special guest Mike Johnson on this episode of Lovers and Friends.According to a study conducted by School of Sciences fathers displayed less “active grief” than their female partners, BUT they were more vulnerable to feelings of despair and difficulty in coping 8 weeks following the loss. The National Library of Medicine found that of 40 men who’s partner had a miscarriage, 59% said they had a deepened awareness of the fragility of life, 45% mourned the loss of their family’s hopes and dreams, 40% reported a strong sense of vulnerability and powerlessness to help their wife and half did not share feelings with their partner at all.These are numbers that I believe our starring guest can bring a face too, and this is a face you might recognize. Mike Johnson has already been a guest on Lovers and Friends in one of our biggest episodes “Tall, Dark, Handsome and Sexually Insecure.”Follow Mike Johnson http://instagram.com/mike_johnsonhttps://www.feelingseen.com/Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Hungryroot!Just go to Hungryroot.com/LOVERS, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies. Intimissimi Go to intimissimi.com/jlo again thats intimissimi.com/jloBetterhelp!Go to betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month!Follow Shan:https://www.instagram.com/shanboodramhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodyhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qngloversfriendspodcast@gmail.comSources:https://time.com/3982471/men-are-the-forgotten-grievers-in-miscarriage/https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8064426/https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/02646839908404587#.Vb9xQc4qefQ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	So you went into a depression of sorts?
0:03.0	Oh, for sure. It was a deep depression. It was bad.
0:05.0	I had spent a year at home, I let me go my job,
0:08.0	I used my entire savings just live off of,
0:10.0	put my hair out, grow my face out, look bad.
0:14.0	And in that time, I allowed myself to feel.
0:18.0	And what I felt was like I lost my family.
0:28.9	Up to one in four known pregnancies may end in miscarriage.
0:33.1	Now, for many of us, this dad is old news.
0:35.3	But as we continue to have this conversation aloud after generations of keeping this
0:39.3	pain private, what I do think is new is considering how the father feels about the loss.
0:45.3	Now, this seems like a no-brainer, but speaking from personal experience, it often hasn't
0:50.5	occurred to me to ask.
0:53.1	And that's what we're talking about with special guest Mike Johnson
0:56.1	on this episode of...
0:57.4	Lovers and friends. I'm going to take you on a trip, baby, I don't pretend, I say.
1:05.6	A miscarriage is the most common type of pregnancy loss.
1:08.7	Miscarriages happen before the 20th week and they can happen
1:11.7	if the fetus isn't developing normally or if there's an issue with the placenta or because of an
1:17.2	infection, of course, for other reasons. I say this because I want to note that in many cases,
1:22.4	these problems have little to do with the parents' ability to carry a baby full term.
1:26.8	Creating a life is just a very delicate process and things don't always go according to plan.
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