Losing Everything (w/ Tig Notaro)
Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer
Headgum & Nicole Byer
4.8 • 15.6K Ratings
🗓️ 14 November 2025
⏱️ 64 minutes
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Summary
In 2012, comedian Tig Notaro was diagnosed with invasive cancer, got pneumonia, contracted C. diff, went through a breakup, and then lost her mother - all within four months. Tig joins Nicole to talk about how surviving that period changed her outlook on life, how she rebuilt, and how an ironic “sweet dreams” text turned into the most adorable relationship with her wife Stephanie. They talk about how commitment ended up giving Tig a sense of freedom, finding comedy in the darkest moments in life, raising twins, and her new documentary Come See Me in the Good Light.
Check out Tig's new film, Come See Me in the Good Light, on Apple TV+. And listen to her podcast, Handsome.
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| 0:00.0 | Want to watch this episode? Catch the full video on YouTube. Just hit the link in the episode description. |
| 0:07.0 | This is a headgum podcast. |
| 0:11.0 | So we make out then the next day, I'm of course on Cloud 9. She sends me this 50 million page email about how she's straight. |
| 0:20.0 | She doesn't want to leave me on, |
| 0:22.2 | that she likes me a lot as a person, and that she's not gay, but she'd love to just be friends |
| 0:28.5 | with me. And I was like, oh boy, of course. And then I just thought, well, I can't push somebody |
| 0:34.8 | into liking me or, you know, being attracted to me. |
| 0:38.5 | So even though I was bummed, I just wrote back because I was like, I'll just keep it lighthearted. |
| 0:43.8 | And I wrote back, um, okay, Dyke. |
| 0:48.6 | Why won't you date me? |
| 0:50.8 | Why won't you date me? |
| 0:52.6 | Why won't you date me? Please tell me why won't you date me why won't you date me please tell me why oh baby welcome to another episode of |
| 1:06.5 | why won't you date me a podcast or me to cold buyer was trying to figure out why was so single, even though you could come on a lamp and tell me it was a light bulb. |
| 1:14.9 | My guest today is a hilarious comedian and co-os of the popular podcast, Hemsome, right here on Good Gumb. |
| 1:22.3 | Her new movie, Come See Me in the Good Light, is out today. |
| 1:27.1 | It's Tigna Dora. |
| 1:30.9 | Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. |
| 1:33.5 | Hello, Dick. |
| 1:34.9 | I was really taking that in. |
| 1:38.1 | Yeah. |
| 1:38.4 | Did you like it? |
| 1:39.3 | Yeah, I really did. |
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