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It can be easy to spot flaws in your spouse. I'm really that's a spiritual gift of

mine. I can find the flaws in Dina. But that's a bad attitude of course. And

then if I start to pray for her, oh my goodness, things change. What if real

change happens because I'm not praying for her, but I'm praying for me. I'm

John Fuller joined by my focus colleagues Aaron and Greg Smalley and Aaron. I

was being a little bit humorous there, but I'm sure you've seen couples where

they come in and the fingers pointing at the other person when actually we need

a mirror in this situation, right? Yes. And when you say, you know, is there a

couple? Well, let's just say it happens all the time. I don't know that there is a

couple that comes in not focused on the other person and what they're doing

or they're not doing. And what I love so so much is the principle that is taught

in our intensive program, Hope Restored. And that's you are responsible for you.

And when we're pointing the finger, we're really giving them our power. And so

it's pulling the power back and controlling what you have control of. And that is

you. And so it's becoming aware of how am I showing up? What am I doing? That's

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