Looking for Love in the Wrong Places with Christian Bevere

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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Talk Radio, Christianity, Religion & Spirituality, Default

4.8 • 808 Ratings

🗓️ 4 May 2026

⏱️ 49 minutes

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Summary

Today I have an on-air session with Christian Bevere, as we processed some of the mistakes she made during her dating days, including dating from places of insecurity, as well as the unrealistic expectations she placed on what dating was “supposed to” look like or feel like in that season of life. We then talk through how unrealistic expectations continue to play out, if we’re not careful, even in marriage. We unpack how family dynamics and Christian culture can influence our perspectives on dating and relationships for both the good and bad, and how there can almost be a “desperation” for relationships, that lead us to looking for love in the wrong places. If this episode resonates with you, check out True Love Dates to learn more about becoming healthy standing alone, and attracting and engaging in healthy relationships. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

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0:00.0	Access more.
0:10.5	I had to realize after that time of praying for my spouse, it just garnered such faith in me that the Lord could do something amazing in relationships.
0:19.7	And then we get engaged and I realized, oh, but wait, that's for my relationship.
0:24.4	But can he do that for me because of the skeletons in my closet?
0:29.0	Because, you know, I used to get too emotionally involved.
0:32.6	Maybe like I'm doing the same thing.
0:33.8	And it's just like kind of a rubber meeting the road moment.
0:36.5	And those were some
0:38.0	fun conversations working out with your fiance of, you know, I'm not this person that hurt you.
0:43.0	You're no longer this person that hurt other people. Like I see this within you. Yeah.
0:47.0	I'm committed to you.
0:53.4	Are you ready to talk to me? My name is Deborah Felita and I'm a licensed professional counselor,
0:59.5	national speaker, and author. Through my blog, books, and podcast, I have the privilege of helping
1:05.1	millions of people get healthy mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally. The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally.
1:11.0	The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air, authentic counseling-style sessions where
1:17.4	we talk about how people are really doing and give my guests and callers an opportunity
1:22.7	to talk to me as a licensed professional counselor.
1:26.6	Each of these episodes is meant to show you that we are all
1:29.9	on the journey of healing, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally, together. None of us
1:37.6	are immune to the challenges and struggles of life, but we don't have to walk this path alone. I'm so proud and honored to be having
1:47.2	these conversations with men and women who are courageously paving the way for open and honest
1:52.9	conversations about their personal journey of healing. So if you're ready, let's talk.
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