Marriage is complex, far more complex than we typically expect going in as Matt and Lauren

Chandler explained a short while back to us.

I asked them what it looks like in their home as they live out God's design for marriage

in today's world.

Here's what they shared.

We understood complimentarianism biblically, but I'm coming from a background where there's

a lot of abuse in my home growing up, Lauren's coming from a background where there was

a lot of kind of, correct me if I'm wrong here, a lot of kind of external religion but

not a lot of heart transformation.

The baggage I brought into the marriage and the baggage she brought into the marriage,

although in essence we understood that we embraced complimentarian abuse of the scriptures

and of life.

I think Lauren had to learn to trust me and I had to learn to try to nurture and nourish

Lauren's gifts and abilities.

So I think early on in the marriage it was a tougher run for us than maybe where we are

now where we've learned one another and as we've navigated the waters of 15 years together,

17 years together, 15 years married.

They really pragmatically how it looks now is a real seriousness about me creating the

space for Lauren to pursue and become the things that God has put on her plate and in

her heart to do that are inside our home and outside of our home.

And then simultaneously, I mean, I know she's sitting right here next to me to sit in

anything I hadn't said to her before, but just I just feel like the most encouraged blessed

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