LIVE With Emily - What Nobody Taught You About Dirty Talk

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.3 • 6.8K Ratings

🗓️ 27 January 2026

⏱️ 44 minutes

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You want to talk to your partner about sex. You really do. But every time you try, your throat closes, your chest tightens, and suddenly it feels easier to just… not. You're not bad at communication — your brain is literally wired to treat these conversations like threats. In this live show, I break down exactly why sex talks trigger fight-or-flight, how shame keeps us mute in the bedroom, and what to do when you've been together for years and never actually talked about what you want. This episode was recorded LIVE across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — part of a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I've learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You'll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being LIVE together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good, without shame or judgment. Tune in most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why your brain treats sex conversations like danger (and how to override it) • How to find your sexual voice and stop cringing when you try to speak up • A husband's honest question about rekindling intimacy after kids You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube! More Dr. Emily: • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more! • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by… Timeline Don’t let another year go by feeling less than your best. Grab 30% off your first month of Mitopure Gummies at Timeline.com/emily30 Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 06:45 - The Clitoris Has 12,000 Nerve Endings (Full Anatomy Explained) 13:20 - How to Talk Dirty Without Feeling Cringey 18:15 - Mutual Masturbation: Why It's a Top Sex Tip 22:40 - Squirting: The Truth vs The Pressure 28:10 - Breaking Down Shame & Performance Anxiety 35:50 - Sex After Kids: Rekindling Intimacy (Live Caller Question) 38:25 - Medications Killing Your Libido (What to Do About It) 40:15 - Finding the Right Sex Therapist (Somatic vs Talk Therapy) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Okay, so what happens if it's awkward? Like, so what? What's gonna happen if it's very awkward? Like, you're gonna die? You're gonna be like what? Like, go through that, because you just gotta get over that hump to hump more, right? Because that is what happens to us, is that we get in the way, like, I'm afraid, I can't do it, but you can you can. Think about all the things you've done that you've never done before that, you know, they all worked out.
0:26.0	Why does asking for what you want in bed feel scarier than talking about money, family, or your biggest fears?
0:32.5	Why does one honest sentence about sex have the power to shut your whole body down?
0:38.4	It's not because you're bad at intimacy. It's because sex is where we feel the most exposed, where rejection and shame and
0:44.2	desire all collide. Well, today on sex with Emily, we're unpacking what's really happening
0:48.9	in your brain and nervous system when intimacy feels just overwhelming and how to stop letting
0:53.9	fear run your sex life.
0:56.2	Because this episode isn't just about sex. It's about what happens when you finally let yourself
1:01.5	be seen. This episode was recorded live across my social platforms all at sex with Emily,
1:08.3	which means you'll hear real questions, real interactions, and unscripted
1:11.4	conversations with the community. You might notice a slightly different flow or pacing, and that's
1:16.6	the energy of a live conversation. Also, reminder, I have thousands of useful articles, guides,
1:21.5	and tools to support you wherever you're at at sex with Emily.com. And make sure you sign up for
1:26.3	my newsletter. Honestly, people tell me all the
1:28.5	time I give really good newsletters. Join my smartsex community at sex withemly.com slash smart
1:35.8	sX for deeper conversations, live coaching, and community support. You can also shop my favorite
1:41.8	expert approved products at shop sex withemly.com and follow me
1:45.3	everywhere on social at Sex With Emily. And remember, share this episode with someone you think
1:50.6	would benefit from it. All right, everyone, enjoy this episode.
1:57.2	You know that moment when things are getting really good and then your brain goes, wait,
2:03.5	what about the mess?
2:04.8	Well, calm and confidential thought about that.
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