LIVE With Emily - Sex Became a Chore for Me Too

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.3 • 6.8K Ratings

🗓️ 20 January 2026

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

Let's be honest — for all the progress we've made, most of us still don't know how to talk about sex. We can talk about work, money, kids, literally everything else. But ask your partner what actually turns them on? Cue panic. In this live show, Dr. Emily opens up the gates for your questions and wow, you did not hold back. She tackles why sex stops feeling fun and starts feeling like a chore, what's really going on when desire disappears, and how to flip the script from obligation back to connection. This episode was recorded live across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I’ve learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You’ll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being live together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good — without shame or judgment. Don't forget to tune in on most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, Tiktok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why sex becomes "just another item on the to-do list" and what that really means • The difference between duty and desire — and why confusing them breeds resentment • How to rebrand sex as connection instead of obligation More Dr. Emily: • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by… Bellesa "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:36 - "Pick Up Laundry, Do Dishes, Have Sex... Check" 6:07 - When You're Not in the Mood to Give 12:25 - How to Ask Someone Out (Live Caller) 14:26 - Can You Make Her Squirt? Techniques That Actually Work 22:22 - How to Get Your Partner to Want Intimacy Again 30:53 - Finding a Third: Dos and Don'ts for Couples 36:08 - The Power of Edging 40:38 - "Desire Needs Space, Not Stress" 47:29 - How to Make Sex Feel Like Connection Again Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	We confuse duty with desire and then over time, resentment replaces curiosity.
0:09.0	I should want to do this. I should want to have sex. What's wrong with me? That is
0:14.0	completely killing our turn-ons. We do not want that for our sex life.
0:19.0	Do you ever feel like sex has turned into something you should want, but you don't?
0:24.7	I'm Dr. Emily Moore, sex educator and relationship expert for over 20 years. Yes, this is my
0:29.6	21st year of doing the podcast. And I decided having real unscripted conversations are the
0:35.8	best way to get us all together and help you have
0:38.0	the sex life you deserve. You can still download my thousands of other podcasts wherever you
0:43.4	listen to podcasts. Remember, sex with Emily is where we turn confusion into clarity and
0:49.3	help you build a sex life that actually feels good without shame or judgment. So today on the Sex
0:56.4	with Emily podcast, we're talking about what's really happening in your relationships, your
1:01.3	bodies and your desire. We talk about why sex so often turns into an obligation,
1:07.6	why it's usually not a libido problem at all and what actually helps turn connection and
1:12.8	arousal back on. We dive into real questions about mismatched desire, guilt around not being in the
1:19.4	mood, how to talk about intimacy without pressure, and how to make sex feel nourishing again
1:25.4	instead of performative. Reminder, this episode was recorded
1:28.9	live across my social platforms, all at Sex with Emily, which means you'll hear real questions,
1:34.4	real interaction, and unscripted conversations with the community. You might notice a slightly
1:39.8	different flow or pacing. That's the energy of a live conversation. I love these conversations.
1:46.3	Also, a reminder, I have thousands of useful articles, guides, and tools to support you wherever
1:51.6	you're at, all at sex withemly.com. And make sure you've signed up for my newsletter. Honestly,
1:57.3	people tell me all the time I give really good newsletter. You can also join SmartSX at Sexwithemly.com slash smartsX for deeper conversations,
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