Here's something that I call it the orphan spirit of money or investing.

I see this in myself.

I've seen this in a ton of clients and it's more common than you think.

So the orphan spirit is really this inner voice of scarcity rejection or lack that drives people to overwork, overprove, and over leverage because deep down they don't feel safe or good enough here's

how you know couple questions number one do you say yes to deals because of fear of missing

out number two do you say no to deals because you're afraid you have fear of failing number

three do you measure yourself by net worth instead of true wealth freedom freedom, impact, family, legacy.

Number four, you only feel safe when the money's in your account, even if you're miserable in the process. For those of you that do not know me, my background is I grew up in South Jersey by Philadelphia. Any Eagles fans in here? Oh, let's go. Go, Burrs. Heck yeah. All right. I like all you guys. Free coaching for all you. So growing up, my parents divorced before I was one. I grew up with my mom. We moved every year to different schools, different cities. And I had to learn how to adapt quickly to make friends and to meet people. So anyway, fast forward. We went through a lot of hard times.

We lived in apartments, cockroaches, infested apartments, pull out my bed, and there's a couple cockroats saying hello, my cereal. And it was in those moments where I was like, I never want this to be my life again. I didn't have control, but I almost made this internal vow that like when I'm able to, I'm getting away.

I'm going to do whatever it takes.

So, right, my senior year, actually, it was my sophomore year. I was in, not kinesiology class. Anatomy class. How many took anatomy? I had this, my anatomy teacher for some reason brought his brother in. He was a dentist in the Navy. So I have no idea why I was there. But he made the Navy look really cool. How many people have served in the Navy? Anyone? One? All right. Thank you, my man. I won't make any jokes. No, Marine, the Navy, we go back and forth. But anyway, I saw the Navy and I was like, this is really cool. This is what I'd love to do. And so I was like, I'm going into the Navy. And then 9-11 happened. And then a year later, one of my buddies that I haven't seen, he was a year older, came back and he was in the Marine Corps uniform. I didn't know the Marines at that time, but I was like, wow. I was like, I can make that uniform look really good. So from that point forward, I was like, I'm going into Marine Corps. So I joined the Marine Corps right out nine days after graduating high school. Actually,

the day I left, my mom was going to get a rental truck because she had to foreclose on the house

because she couldn't afford to pay the bills. So I went to boot camp. I had no clue where we lived

after that. So anyway, went to the Marine Corps, spent a couple years in Japan, got to San Diego. How many people have been to San Diego? All right, you guys know how miserable it is. Sunny and 70, 360 days a year. So I fell in love. And then they said, hey, I know you guys, you just got back from a couple years overseas, but guess

where you're going?

This sandpit.

You're going to Iraq.

And I was like, oh, my gosh, I already spent two years overseas.

The only reason why I came home my first year and a half, my grandmother was dying, got a red cross

message saying she was dying, took them a week to get me home.

And by the time I got there, she was swollen from head to toe like a balloon.

And they said, you have five minutes to say goodbye before we pulled a plug. That was my welcome home.

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