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One of the secrets of adulthood that I learned and I repeat this to my children all the time

because I felt like I got this wrong for a very long time is you don't have to be good

at something, to be good at something.

I was reminded of this secret of adulthood when I was watching the movie Sing Street with

my daughters.

It's a very charming movie about some boys who are forming a band and they're forming a

band and one of them has this very cool older brother who knows a ton about music.

The main character is saying to his older brother, we need to learn how to play.

He said, and the brother says, did the sex pistols know how to play?

You don't need to know how to play.

Who are you, Steely Dan?

You need to learn how not to play.

That's the trick of rock and roll.

I said, well, what does that mean?

You don't need to learn how to play.

I absolutely agree with that.

I think one of the things that tripped me up when I was a child was this belief that if

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