Little Happier: Sometimes, It’s a Good Idea to Say “I Know You Love Me”

Happier with Gretchen Rubin

Gretchen Rubin / The Onward Project

Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.7 • 13K Ratings

🗓️ 4 November 2024

⏱️ 5 minutes

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We’re often told “Don’t put words in people’s mouths” or “Don’t tell other people what they feel,” but as these examples from “Game of Thrones” and “Terms of Endearment” illustrate, sometimes the tender thing to do is to say, “I know you love me.” Get in touch: [email protected] Follow on social media: @GretchenRubin on YouTube @GretchenRubin on TikTok @GretchenRubin on Instagram @GretchenRubin on Threads Get the podcast show notes by email every week: happiercast.com/shownotes Get Gretchen Rubin’s newest book Life in Five Senses to see how she discovered a surprising path to a life of more energy, creativity, luck, and love: by tuning in to the five senses. Now available - order here. Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:56.8	I'm Gretchen Rubin, and this is a little happier. I've been thinking a lot about the nature of love.
1:03.9	Last week, I told a story from a wrinkle in time about how even if someone shows no love for us, through our love for them, we can be transformed.
1:14.6	Something else occurred to me about love. We're often told, don't put words into other people's mouths.
1:21.8	Don't assume you know what someone else is thinking. Don't tell other people what they feel.
1:29.3	And generally, that's very wise advice. But one of my secrets of adulthood is the opposite of a profound truth is also true.
1:37.8	This week, I've been thinking about two examples from very different contexts, when one person
1:43.1	says to another, I know you love me. In both cases,
1:48.8	one person was not acting in a way that seemed loving, and yet the other person tells them,
1:54.3	well, I know you're acting in an unloving way, but I want you to know. I know you love me.
2:03.8	Now, warning, both of these examples contain spoilers,
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