I remember one of our daughters having a massive meltdown and I was trying to listen but I found

myself getting defensive and finally Steve came in and he said can I take over and I was like by all me

Thank you husband yes and he just pulled that child on his lap and he just said tell me more and really her meltdown had nothing to do with me

it had everything to do with the pressure she was facing at school,

pressure from girlfriends, pressure for all the things.

And Steve just kept saying,

tell me more, hon, I love you, tell me more.

Becky Harling is with us today on Focus on the Family and she's going to offer insights

on how you can better listen to your children.

Your host is Focus President and author Jim Daly and I'm John Fuller.

John, here's a news flash.

As a parent, you know each of your children are different, right?

They have different events.

I was just thinking about that very thing.

I had that.

Gene and I had that with Trent and

Troy. Trent was that strong-willed kid, you know, take out the garbage. Why? Why do we

need to take out the garbage? Troy would go, okay, thanks, I'll do it.

Sure, Dad, no problem. Anything else I could do for you. I mean, just

just wired so very differently. But they have another thing in common, I

think more so, and that is the desire to be heard that they wouldn't phrase

it that way, but to be heard and respected and

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