Welcome to Nobody Told Me. I'm Laura Owens. And I'm Jan Black. How can you create and maintain a loving relationship? Do conflict and dissatisfaction in a relationship mean

you're headed for a breakup? And how can you navigate the storms that are almost certain to crop up

between you and your romantic partner? Our guest on this episode, longtime therapist and couples

coach Linda Carroll, has plenty of experience answering questions just like those.

She's the author of the new book Love Skills, The Keys to Unlocking Lasting Wholehearted Love.

Linda, thank you so much for joining us.

Well, I'm so happy to be on the show and wonderful San Francisco.

Yes. Why did you decide to write the latest book?

Well, that in itself is a whole show.

I wrote love cycles based on a class that I've been teaching for many, many years,

and lots of training I've done in all my years as a therapist.

And it was suggested to me that I write the workbook, that I put the workbook together

as a companion book to Love Cycles, my first book, and that I show people how to get

through these stages that I talked about in Love Cycles.

And so it started out as a workbook, but, you know, if, I don't know, if you've ever written

anything, but my experience in writing is that sometimes the book has a different idea

than what you thought it was going to be.

Yeah.

I started writing it as a workbook, and it actually has become its own book.

And certainly there are exercises, and there's lots of techniques in the book.

I talk about different issues and ways to get through them that are pretty tried and truly tested.

But the book also has a lot more content in it than I thought it would.

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