Lin & The Terrorizing Abuser | Domestic Violence & Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

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Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture, Relationships

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🗓️ 13 October 2025

⏱️ 71 minutes

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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Lin recounts being married to a terrorizing abuser. Lin met her ex on Yahoo Personals, and he presented himself as a top-secret ex-military veteran who had gone through an immense amount of trauma. With these stories, Lin's ex was able to isolate her, instill fear in her, and control her life. For 17 years, Lin lived inside a prison with an alternate reality, doing her best to survive. It's a story of fear, obligation, guilt, shame, trust, physical abuse, sexual abuse, suicidal ideation, animal abuse, depression, anxiety, survival, jealousy, accusations, deceit, intimidation, threats, gaslighting, neglect, child hood trauma, isolation, truth tellers, boundaries, legal battles, infidelity, double lives, humiliation, restraining orders, and time theft. *** CONTENT WARNING - We discuss physical abuse, sexual abuse, sexual assault, suicidal ideation, and animal abuse in this episode. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or send us an email at [email protected] PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bitch is a Bad Word | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor name Lynn, and Lynn was married to a terrorizing abuser.
0:10.8	It's a story of jealousy, accusations, deceit, intimidation, threats, and survival.
0:47.7	Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chattwick and with me today we have Lynn. How are you?
0:55.9	I'm doing well. How are you? I am doing well and thank you for asking and thank you for being here. And if you want to be a guest like Lynn is today, please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com and click on the guest
1:02.1	form button at the top of the page. There you can read all of our instructions and please read them
1:07.2	all and either send us an email at Narcissist Apocalypse at gmail.com or fill out
1:12.1	our guest form and press the submit button. And please do send it in the format that we ask for.
1:17.4	And we do have a content warning for this episode for the survivor story, as we do mention
1:21.5	sexual abuse and assault, physical abuse, suicidal ideation, and animal abuse in this episode.
1:28.3	So that is your content warning for today. And today you're going to hear Lynn's story. And Lynn was married to a terrorist
1:34.2	in Lundy Bancroft's list of abuser types from his book. Why Does He Do That? And her partner
1:40.4	created a full fictional world about their past to keep them isolated, controlled,
1:46.9	and in a state of fear with this built-in group of excuses right from the start. So thankfully,
1:52.9	Lynn is alive to tell her story today. So I'm giving her a big thank you for being here once again.
1:58.8	And I'm going to get out of my way and your way.
2:01.7	Lynn, the floor is now yours. Thank you. So this is my account of how I became
2:10.0	psychologically imprisoned by my ex-partner of 17 years. He basically hijacked my life for the period of time that I was with him.
2:20.4	And I was coerced throughout the relationship with fear and intimidation. And I didn't even
2:29.0	realize until I was probably 10 years into the relationship that it was abuse because I had no
2:36.5	understanding of that type of abuse. So in my childhood, I would say it was very Gen X household.
2:47.1	My parents kind of went by the old adage of children should be seen, not heard.
2:54.4	My mother was physically abusive and angry.
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