Rerelease: Tori & The Altruistic Abuser | Domestic Violence & Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

Abuse Survivor Network

Society & Culture, Relationships, True Crime, Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 740 Ratings

🗓️ 17 October 2025

⏱️ 91 minutes

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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Tori shares her powerful story of growing up in an unstable home, a cult-like church, and eventually marrying an altruistic abuser. Tori offers valuable insights into recognizing red flags, navigating abusive relationships, and finding the strength to break free. It's a story of food and sleep deprivation, control, manipulation, idealization, chaos, infidelity, cult, verbal abuse, rage, financial abuse, physical abuse, and religious abuse. *** CONTENT WARNING - We discuss physical abuse in this episode. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or send us an email at [email protected] PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bitch is a Bad Word | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Tori, and Tori was married to a controlling altruistic abuser.
0:11.0	It's a story of future faking, idealization, cults, proving yourself, chaos, and grief.
0:37.0	Music chaos and grief. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today, we have Tori. How are you?
0:50.6	Doing great. Thanks. Thanks for having me on.
0:53.8	Well, thank you for being here. And if you want to be a guest like Tori is today,
1:00.0	please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com. Top of the page, there is a button that says
1:05.5	guest form. And when you click on that button, it takes you to our guest form page. There,
1:09.9	you can read all of our instructions and either send us an email at Narcissist Apocalypse
1:13.4	at gmail.com or fill out our guest form and press the submit button and please do send it
1:18.3	in the format that we ask for.
1:20.3	And today we're going to hear Tori's story, which is about her experience in a marriage
1:24.7	with an altruistic abuser.
1:26.9	But we do spend time as well explaining
1:29.5	the cult background, which Tori came from. She was also inadvertently involved in a cult while
1:34.4	on a mission. And there is no content warning for this episode either. So there's no content
1:41.2	warning for this episode. And now I'm going to get out of my way and your way.
1:46.7	Tori, once again, thank you for being here.
1:49.2	And the floor is now yours.
1:52.6	Thanks, Brandon.
1:55.6	So basically, I guess I'll start off when I was growing up,
2:03.2	because now that I'm out of this, I look back and I can see how I grew up kind of shaped the type of person that I would be
2:10.8	choosing.
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