Limerence Deep Dive (Chapter 14 - Dr Tom Bellamy)
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
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🗓️ 6 February 2026
⏱️ 83 minutes
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00:00 Introducing Dr. Tom Bellamy
21:38 What was Dr. Bellamy's experience with limerence?
44:46 What makes it different from falling in love?
1:01:12 How do we define, and refine, the pathology of limerence?
1:19:43 Where can I find Dr. Bellamy and his work?
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, deserve listeners. Today, I'm going to be interviewing someone I've been really looking forward |
| 0:05.3 | to interviewing Dr. Tom Bellamy, who is an expert on Limerance. And this episode is coming out |
| 0:11.9 | in February, which is after Tom's book has been published in the United States. So you can run out |
| 0:19.0 | and get it. We'll talk about that book in a second. |
| 0:22.1 | But just so you know, I'm recording this back in November of 2025. And it's just a couple |
| 0:28.1 | days after I finished my deep dive on limerence. So if there are things that I say that aren't |
| 0:35.9 | taking into account the things that happen from November |
| 0:38.6 | to February, then that's why. The reason why I'm recording it now in November is because right |
| 0:45.0 | now I'm nerding out on limerence, but Dr. Tom Bellamy's book is being published in February, |
| 0:50.2 | so I wanted the episode to come out when people can actually get his book in the United States. |
| 0:54.8 | So welcome to the podcast, Dr. Tom Bellamy. |
| 0:57.9 | Thanks a lot for having me. |
| 0:59.6 | And you are in the UK? |
| 1:01.7 | That's right. |
| 1:02.4 | Yes, I'm in Nottingham in the UK. |
| 1:04.7 | So Robin Hood Country. |
| 1:07.5 | For those who listen to my deep dive on limerance, I talked for a while about my journey recently |
| 1:14.0 | with the concept and with the clinical literature. And in a nutshell, I discovered pretty quickly |
| 1:21.0 | that there wasn't much written about liberates. Well, first off, I was resistant to even talking |
| 1:26.3 | about limerence because I thought it was just a crush, as they say. |
| 1:29.9 | And then as I sent out a survey and I discovered, whoa, something else is going on here that I wasn't aware of. |
| 1:36.6 | And then I started to, you know, dive more into the literature and into people's accounts of limerance and discovered, this is a full-blown, |
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