“Let The Guilt Go”: Lou Beckett on the Lie That You’re Failing in Motherhood

Motherkind

Zoe Blaskey

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.8 • 864 Ratings

🗓️ 27 April 2026

⏱️ 10 minutes

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If you feel like you’re failing at motherhood… this is the reframe you need. In this powerful Motherkind Moment, Zoe sits down with Lou Beckett, author of The Sunday Times Bestseller, Lessons from A Default Parent and wife of Comedian, Rob Beckett, to unpack something so many mothers feel but rarely say out loud - the constant pressure to be a “good” mum and the quiet belief that we’re not quite measuring up. Lou shares how she started motherhood feeling like she was failing and how that feeling stayed with her for years. Not because she was doing anything wrong, but because she cared so deeply about getting it right. 💡 In this Moment, you’ll learn: Why feeling like you’re failing is often a sign that you care deeply How comparison and constant advice are fuelling pressure and self-doubt Why you can’t “high-achieve” motherhood - and what to aim for instead A simple but powerful mindset shift to help you let go of guilt If you’ve ever felt like you’re not doing enough…If you’ve ever compared yourself to other mums and come up short…If you’ve ever felt guilty for wanting time, space, or something for yourself… This one is for you. Watch every full episode on YouTube and subscribe. Loved this episode? Follow or subscribe so you never miss an episode of Motherkind. It helps more mothers find the show and keeps our community growing. If you enjoyed this Moment, you can listen to the full episode here: The Truth About Being the Default Parent: Why Mothers Feel Lost, Guilty and Overwhelmed Feeling like you’re carrying it all? Download your FREE Mental Load Cheat Sheet and learn how to start feeling lighter, even if nothing in your life changes. Connect with Zoe: Follow Zoe on Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok Get Zoe’s Sunday Times bestselling book, 'Motherkind: A New Way to Thrive in a World of Endless Expectations’ This Motherkind episode is sponsored by: . Headline sponsor Wild Nutrition, the brand raising the bar for women’s supplements. Want to feel the Food-Grown difference yourself? Get 50% off for three months at wildnutrition.com/motherkind. Ts and Cs apply. . Start your children’s reading journey with Usbourne Books . Sign up for your one-pound-per-month trial today at shopify.co.uk/motherkind For a £100 sponsored job credit, visit Indeed.com/ Motherkind Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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1:00.7	Terms and conditions apply hiring. Do it the right way with Indeed. And I think I started my
1:08.8	parenting journey feeling like I was failing.
1:11.5	And that's never really left me.
1:14.2	And actually it would have been so much more productive and so much better for me over the past 10 years to just let some of it go.
1:22.3	Just go, you know, I'm trying my best and that is okay.
1:25.8	That's fine.
1:27.2	Where do you think all that pressure on yourself was coming from?
1:30.0	If it wasn't coming from outside, where was it coming from?
1:34.2	I think most normal people want to be the best parent they can.
1:39.7	There's very few, very few people who don't actually care.
1:47.0	Most of us care deeply, deeply about being the best parent, the best mum, the best dad, whoever. And so it is coming from inside.
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