Let's Talk Libido

Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.4 • 978 Ratings

🗓️ 9 December 2025

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

The word libido can make it seem like desire is predetermined and out of our control—we either have it or we don't. In reality, desire is remarkably fluid—shaped by the meanings we attach to sex, our sense of self, and the kind of relationship we’re stepping into. In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why podcast to discuss libido and sexual desire. They explore how biology, medications, aging, stress, and hormones can influence our sexual desire—but emphasize that the meanings we carry about sex, marriage, duty, and self-worth are usually the most powerful drivers of all. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also responds to three common scenarios: a husband who uses data and calendars to justify his sexual entitlement a man who responds to sexual differences with persistent whining a mother overwhelmed by young children who feels too “touched out” for sex In each example, she offers insight into how shifting the underlying meaning—not just the behavior—can help couples create a more grounded and mutually satisfying sexual dynamic. **SAVE 20% on Dr. Finlayson-Fife's BRAND-NEW COURSE with code SWW20**

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0:00.0	can our sexual relationship be a place of refuge,
0:02.9	a place to be cared about, a place to be given to,
0:06.6	a place to belong to my sense of being a woman,
0:09.3	not just a mother, to our partnership, to our friendship.
0:13.7	And that's worth sleep, you know,
0:16.1	because that gives you rejuvenation.
0:27.6	Music That gives you rejuvenation. Welcome to Conversations with Dr. Jennifer, a collection of interviews on the topics of relationships, sexuality, spirituality, and more.
0:39.9	All featuring Dr. Finlayson Fife.
0:48.8	When sex feels awkward, dutiful, or lifeless, it can quietly erode the foundation of our marriages.
0:56.1	My newest course, Sex Worth Wanting, is designed to help couples see what's keeping their sexual relationship from thriving and offers a pathway to greater closeness and mutual desire. So to celebrate the launch
1:03.1	of my new online course, we're offering 20% off for a limited time with the code SWW20. I hope you'll take advantage of this chance to work together
1:14.4	with your spouse in a self-paced course to better understand how you can create a more intimate
1:20.2	thriving relationship. Hi, this is Tammy Hill and this is the Live Your White podcast.
1:30.1	One of the questions I often get is, what can I do to have more of a libido?
1:36.9	I'd like to visit with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about this today.
1:40.8	What are the factors that influence libido and how can we improve? Jennifer, thank you so much for joining me today. What are the factors that influence libido and how can we improve? Jennifer, thank you so much for
1:47.2	joining me today. Thanks for having me. So as I work with couples, I often work through the challenges
1:53.8	of a high desire and low desire partner. I know we've talked about that before, but maybe let's just
2:00.1	hit on it for a moment.
2:01.9	Do you think every relationship experiences this dynamic?
2:06.3	Yes and no.
2:07.9	So what I would say is that I think Dr. Schnarsh, who I worked with for several years,
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