Let's Talk About Our Needs

The Angry Therapist Podcast

John Kim

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 6 December 2023

⏱️ 19 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, John talks about having needs in our relationships. What are our needs? How much of our needs are on us? How much are on our partners or others? How can we fulfill and ask for our needs to be met? Are my needs too much? And more.

Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own
0:04.3	rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life
0:08.9	lessons and revelations. I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose
0:16.2	because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.
0:18.8	Before I get into today's episode about needs, what are our needs, how much of our needs
0:30.6	should be fulfilled, right? What's our responsibility as far as
0:33.9	fulfilling our own needs? And listen, I'm just one 50-year-old Korean therapist who has been married. I've been in three to four long-term
0:48.9	relationships, three years mostly each relationship and of course lots of other relationships
0:57.2	that were more short-lived. I'm just one opinion know, the thing about love and dating and relationships, I don't know if there are blanket answers.
1:10.0	I get very frustrated when I hear people preaching about what this is when it comes to love in relationship and this is truth and this works for everyone.
1:25.2	Now of course there are some fundamental concepts like, you know, for example abuse, right?
1:31.2	That's pretty cut and dry, that's pretty cut and dry that's pretty black and white as far as if it's
1:36.9	healthy or not right it's it's a fact that any form of abuse, emotional, physical, whatever is not a good thing and obviously
1:47.7	stunts growth can be damaging and all that.
1:50.3	But you know other things in relationships like what I'm going to talk about today there is no one fits all you know and it's something that may be honest to you may not be honest to someone else and that's okay like I think part of life and
2:05.7	living this life is that as we grow and and evolve and we become different
2:12.0	beings our definitions change what we want in and we become different beings.
2:13.0	Our definitions change, what we want in relationships change,
2:16.3	and this is normal and okay.
2:18.2	I mean, think about it.
2:20.4	Do you want the same things that you wanted
2:21.9	when you were in your 20s? Do you want the same things that you wanted when you were in your 20s? Do you want the same things that you wanted when you were 18?
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