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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

Let Kids Choose... Except When They Can't

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

JLML Press

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.73.8K Ratings

🗓️ 6 June 2023

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

As parents and caregivers, most of us know that it's a good idea to let our kids make choices. Offering choice is one of the ways we demonstrate respect for children as competent people. Making appropriate choices encourages them to be decision-makers and problem solvers, helps to foster a sense of autonomy, agency and healthy control in their world. In this episode, Janet shares how we can begin offering our kids choices even as babies and how as toddlers they crave choice as an expression of their burgeoning sense of self. Janet notes, however, that it can get more complicated. There will be times when offering young children even the simplest choice can seem to paralyze them in indecision. In other instances, they'll make opposing demands on us that can be confusing and infuriating. How do we navigate this? Janet explains by offering guidelines for when and how offering choices works best.

Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse.com.

Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Apple, Barnes & Noble, Google Play, and free at Audible (https://adbl.co/2OBVztZ) with a trial subscription.

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Hi, this is Janet Landsbury.

0:04.0

Welcome to UnRuffled.

0:05.9

Today I'm going to be talking about choices.

0:10.0

Most of us know already that it can be helpful

0:13.9

and confidence building to give our young children choices

0:18.4

and continue to give them more and more choice

0:21.2

as they get older so that we can nurture

0:23.2

that sense of autonomy and agency in them.

0:27.7

They can feel that their point of view is valued by us.

0:31.8

And then actually the focus of this podcast

0:34.2

is going to be on the less intuitive aspects

0:37.6

of giving children choices,

0:39.7

understanding that there are certain situations

0:43.1

where we may want to be giving them a choice

0:46.5

and it doesn't work out for us or for them.

0:50.8

And that can frustrate us, infuriate us even.

0:54.8

How do we puzzle this out?

0:56.2

How do we know when to give choices

0:59.1

or what kind of choices to give children

1:01.7

and what kind of choices they need us to make?

1:05.6

So I'm looking forward to getting into this more thoroughly

1:08.2

and hopefully answering some of the questions that you might have.

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