Learning When to Let Go

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 2.7K Ratings

🗓️ 12 July 2021

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

Most personal growth content out there suggests having a "never give up" mindset. But the truth is that a big part of life is deciding when it's time to stop investing our limited effort into that job, skill, or relationship that's no longer serving you. Today Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest explore how to determine when it's time for things to end, dealing with disappointment, giving ourselves credit for our good efforts, and getting excited about what's to come. Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 2:15: Being sure you’re not ending too soon. 4:50: Improving distress tolerance vs. protecting yourself. 9:50: Trusting the past. 13:30: What keeps people stuck: sunk cost fallacy. 14:30: The longing for a just world. 16:50: Dealing with disappointment. 22:00: Optimism, and turning toward the future. 24:30: Understanding the limitations of our environment. 27:15: Redefining success. 30:05: Knowing you gave things your best effort. 32:00: Impulsivity. 33:30: Unilateral virtue. 37:30: Finding your five. 39:30: Helping other people feel heard. 42:45: Being clear about the “last chance.” 45:30: The fear of change, and turning toward the future. 52:45: Recap. Sponsors: From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the legendary Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription. Start a new healthy habit with Seed! Visit seed.com/beingwell and use code BEINGWELL to get 20% off your first month of Seed’s Daily Synbiotic. Connect with the show: Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello, and welcome to Being Well, I'm Forest Hanson.
0:10.7	If you're new to the podcast, this is where we explore the practical science of lasting
0:15.0	well-being.
0:16.1	And if you've listened before, welcome back.
0:18.7	We've spent a lot of time on this podcast exploring the future.
0:23.3	How we can set big goals and how we can go about achieving them.
0:28.2	How we can make good decisions and relate to whatever the outcome is.
0:33.0	A lot of the time inside of those conversations, there's a bit of an assumption that if
0:37.6	our process is good, our outcomes will be good as well.
0:42.1	And if we just refine our process enough, everything will work out in the end.
0:47.2	But we all know that that's not necessarily how life actually works.
0:51.7	And oftentimes, we realize that it's time for something to end.
0:56.0	Our efforts are not being rewarded.
0:58.0	We're not getting what we want out of a certain situation.
1:01.9	And it's just time to take a big, clear-eyed look around and say, you know what, I probably
1:06.9	shouldn't be in this situation for any longer.
1:10.1	So that's what we're going to be focusing on today.
1:12.0	How we can end well.
1:13.5	How can we relate to what's happened so far?
1:16.7	And how can we perhaps look for greener pastures?
1:20.2	So to help us do that, I'm joined today as usual by Dr. Rick Hanson.
1:23.9	So dad, how are you doing today?
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