Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical

wisdom, and insights from parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening,

and we hope this helps. Learning is frustrating. Being a kid is tough, and it's tough because they're learning, often by

painful trial and error, an endless number of lessons about life. What they're allowed to do and

not, what happens when you touch something hot, how other people act, what feels good and what doesn't.

Plus, they're also in school learning academic knowledge to

math and science and reading and history. It's a lot. We should understand that this is not only

overwhelming, it's frustrating and exhausting. Aren't you exhausted when you start a new job and have to

figure out all the ins and outs of the place? You feel like you're taking in more than a person could possibly

take in, plus you're being zapped with negative feedback every time you make a mistake.

Well, here's a piece of advice from the great Dr. Becky, from her amazing book, Good Inside,

which every parent should read, that we can translate to our kids and also to ourselves.

Here is something I start saying to my kids early on, she writes.

Did you know that learning is hard?

I mean it every single time any of us learn something new, me, you, and everyone, it feels

frustrating.

And also listen to this because it's weird.

Frustration, that feeling of, oh, I can't do it or, oh, I just want to be done already.

That's a feeling that tries to trick our brain into telling us we're doing something wrong.

But actually, this feeling is a sign that we're learning and doing something right.

It's such a tricky thing. And let's be on the lookout for that feeling so we can remind

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