Okay, so what about this situation? Is this going to be a makeup or a breakup? Is this financial

infidelity? In the email, they said, I was stunned when I checked our savings and noticed that

half of it was gone. So I confronted my husband and he told me he gave some money to his best

friend.

Apparently his friend had been on the wrong side of a debt with a drug dealer.

$50,000.

Oh my gosh.

The drug dealer threatened my husband's friend saying that if he didn't have his money in 48 hours,

he was going to kill him.

So my husband says he knew he had to do it to save his friend's life. And he told me that he knew I would fight him on it. And that's why he didn't come to me first. Because if he did,

I would block it. His friend would miss his deadline and

thus would be dead my husband is not wrong but his buddy is the one who made the bad choices

he has been a mess for the last 15 years that I have known him and this isn't the first time my

husband has bailed him out and I know it's not going to be the

last. So now my husband and I are at each other's throats. I feel like he was financially

unfaithful to me. And he thinks I have no heart. Who do you think is right? Do you think financial

infidelity is as bad as sexual infidelity?

I've seen marriages break up over finances. And there's been, they've been cheating going on in the

relationship, but they forgave that. They couldn't forgive the finances.

Question. When your husband has bailed out his friend before, did you get that money back?

I don't know if any of it was financial.

And so I don't know.

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