all of these people in my life i can desert i'm feeling all pissed off and hurt i need to know if i am the jerk

oh am i the jerk oh okay what do you think is this person a jerk or not they want to know if

they're a jerk for not taking friends with benefits lightly.

It says here, am I being the jerk for not wanting to hang out with my boyfriend's best friend and his girlfriend.

My partner told me that the girlfriend and my partner used to be friends with benefits for about five to six months a few years ago.

Everybody knows about it

and is okay with it except for me. I have no desire to hang out with her or anything. He just

sees her as his best friend, girlfriend, and nothing more. But for me, it just makes me feel

uncomfortable. Am I being unreasonable? He has told me that he loves me and he has never told

her or anyone else over the past 10 years that. So how do you feel about being in a situation

where you're with your boyfriend and the person he used to have the friends with benefits

arrangement with.

If you don't feel comfortable, you should say that and then say, I'm not hanging out in this whole scenario.

It makes me feel weird.

I don't want to be a part of this.

And that's okay to say that.

Yeah, and what do they like all the time around each other are they

are they touching are they friendly are they talking about old times all that will lead to insecurity

for for a lot of people my wife has told me she has a belief that once you've been with somebody

that it is easier to be with them again and so the chances are that you might hook up a second time

are greater than if you've never hooked up before.

Interesting.

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