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Music Hello and welcome back to Big Mood Little Mood. I'm your host, Danny Lavery. And with me this week in the studio is Dr. Orna Goralnik, a psychoanalyst and writer, host of the Showtime docu-series couples therapy. Welcome to the show. Thank you. Very good to be here. Thank you for inviting me. I'm so pleased to have you here. I think about two weeks ago, I was on part of a walking tour of the psychoanalytic history of Manhattan. Unfortunately, I didn't get to stay for the end, so I don't know how it finished, but it was great. And so I'm very pleased to have an actual real-life psychoanalyst in this studio.

That is so cool. You should tell me more about that walking tour.

Oh, it's fantastic. Yes, I will try to send you the link afterwards, although I don't suppose there's any reason I can't just name it.

It's not as if I'm not worried about, about like offending a sponsor or anything. It was the

psychiatric history of New York from Pure Finder. They're I guess a company that does various

historical walking tours. And it started in the Carl Shirts Park by 87th Street. And it was

really, really fantastic. That is so cool. I mean, you can stop me if

I'm like intruding, but what prompted you to actually take that tour? So it was my wife's

birthday weekend. And my wife is a professor of literature at UC Berkeley. But she also has a lot of

interest in psychoanalytic theory and has, I think,

given a few talks at, like, various psychoanalytic societies. So I thought this was something

that would be of interest to her and was looking for something to do while her mom was in town.

And I sort of thought, like, walking tours, that feels like a good, you know, in-law activity. And it was. That is great. I love it. The psychoanalysis is definitely having a renaissance. Yeah, it definitely, maybe they got into that more in the second half of the tour, but it was very cool. We got up to about the 1940s when we had to leave a little early. So that's all I know now. Okay. But so I'm really looking

forward to this. I know not all of these have anything to do with the couple form, but I still feel

pretty confident that you're going to be able to bring useful advice and a thoughtful

perspective to all of our question askers today. So with that said, I will go ahead and read our first

question and we can dive into it. The subject of our first letter is get kiss the girl out of my

head. I'm a mid-30 straight woman who got divorced last year after 12 years with my horrible ex. I'm so

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