Kids Who Struggle When Plans Change, Refuse Instructions, Always Ask, “Why” #474
Calm Parenting Podcast
Kirk Martin
4.7 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 30 April 2025
⏱️ 26 minutes
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Summary
You ask your strong-willed child to do something that’s not a big deal, but they instantly refuse or ask, “Why?” Is your child being defiant, rebellious or difficult on purpose? Or is something else going on? Kirk gives you an actual script and 5 specific action steps so you know how to handle this situation next time.
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| 1:04.0 | So do you have a child who, when asked to do something, when given instructions, reflexively, |
| 1:09.5 | almost immediately responds by saying no or asking why well of |
| 1:13.9 | course you do because you have strong will kids and it's irritating is this just a defiant child |
| 1:19.2 | who's purposefully being difficult or is something else going on that is what we're going to |
| 1:25.2 | discuss on today's episode of the calm parenting podcast so welcome this is. This is Kirk Martin. Founder to Celebrate Calm. You can find us in our Mother's Day sale at CelebrateCalm.com. Two quick things. I had a mom who forwarded it to her husband and he already got her downloaded all of our programs for Mother's Day. And she was like, I still have a couple of weeks left. |
| 1:44.5 | So I'm going to ask him for more things. |
| 1:45.9 | I was a good job. |
| 1:46.9 | And then shout out to Adam, a guy who's like, hey, this isn't just about moms. |
| 1:51.7 | I have been working through your programs and breaking the generational patterns that I got from my dad. |
| 1:57.6 | Kudos to you, all the moms and dads out there who are breaking generational patterns |
| 2:01.9 | and learning to parent in ways that you are never parented. Good for you, man. That's hard work. |
| 2:08.9 | So here's the thing. If you're a generally compliant rule following person by nature, |
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