someone feels your intention more than they feel your intervention. So intention is, my intention

right now to teach and make better. Or is my intention to vomit my own frustration onto my child as a form

of catharsis, which is usually what we do. Feels so good, though. Feels so good. We do it at work all the time.

If you have kids, then you probably already know Dr. Becky.

In fact, you may have used her app when your kid was having a meltdown.

She's the author of Good Inside, the name of her app also, but more important, she is an absolute

genius at understanding human beings, both the little ones and the big ones.

Yes, she talks about parenting and yes,

we talked about how to be a better parent, but my goodness, the amount that I got out of this

conversation about how I can be a better leader, absolutely invaluable. This is a bit of optimism.

I live in Los Angeles. We're recording in Los Angeles.

We've had these fires. Families have been traumatized.

When something happens to a family, and it's hard enough for the parents to deal with what they're going through, what are we supposed to say to children?

First of all, when unimaginable,

horrible things happen, there's no perfect approach and there's no perfect words. And so I just always want to tell parents that, like, what's the right thing to say? There's no right words for a

situation that's wrong, ever. So let's just get that out the window. The principle that always drives me, because I tend to be

driven by first principles and anything I think about, is that information doesn't scare kids

as much as a lack of information scares kids. Because kids are expert perceivers of the world,

even more than we are, because their evolution, their survival depends on it. Kids are so dependent on adults

for survival, right? We all need food, shelter, water. But me and you, Simon, we can get food,

shelter, and water. Kids get food, shelter, water, love from their parent. And so they have to be especially

attuned to what's going on. Did my environment change? Where is my parent? Might I need

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