Hey, what's up? This is Ramses Job. And I go by the name, Q Ward. And we'd like you to join us each week for our show Civic Cipher. That's right. We discuss social issues, especially those that affect black and brown people, but in a way that informs and empowers all people. We discuss everything from prejudice to politics to police violence, and we try to give you the tools to create positive change in your home, workplace, and social circle.

We're going to learn how to become better allies to each other.

So join us each Saturday for Civic Cypher on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever

you get it right the next time.

I'm one of your celebrity mentors, Kelly Ben-Simon. You may know me from the Real Housewives of

New York and the Ultimate Girls trip. I have been having so much fun doing this podcast with all the

incredible people on this show. It's almost like this podcast is therapy for me. So today, I just

want to kind of talk about what's been on my heart, my heart and on my mind.

I may get a little emotional.

What I want you listeners to know is that you're not alone.

Heartbreak sucks and I'm literally going through it just like you.

So let's get started.

We're going to go from heartbreak to manifesting love,

and I'm so excited to do this with you guys. You know, I just want you guys to know, like,

really where I've come from and who I am. So I got married at a very young age and I was married for 10 years to a man that's older and French. I have two beautiful girls who I love so much. But it was a

really difficult, difficult marriage because it was more about me being his wife and doing things for him than us being partners.

And I didn't really know like what a partner meant or felt like when I was in my early 20s.

And, you know, you have to also remember, like I started modeling when I was 15. And so the men that I

were, that I was meeting were guys from college. And they were all at a totally different pace

in life than I was. And so when I met my ex-husband, you know, he was older, he was savvy,

he was sophisticated. But it was all about him. And it was really, really difficult to be

in a one-sided relationship. And I, you know, had my first daughter who I love so much. And by the way,

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