So I was speaking to a men's group yesterday.

Always love it when like men get together with other men

to talk about their feelings.

Deal with their emotional bullshit.

It's not something you see every day

so when you see it it's it's it's like

it's a very beautiful thing. It's the subtle art of not giving a fuck podcast with

your host Mark Manson. But it was interesting, I was answering questions from guys in the group and there was one gentleman who got up,

overweight guy.

He said he had been struggling with his weight for years

and was having episodes of benzene

and was just like absolutely distraught,

overwhelmed with anxiety, regret, feelings of failure,

or whatever. And it was a very like touching and emotional conversation that we had and

I guess I'll start with how I answered him but then I'll talk about like why I bring this up

This is my fuck for the week. So my answer to him was that anytime we fail at something, you know, there's kind of two levels of that failure.

The first one is just the simple like emotional gut reaction right so it's like you fuck something up

You're like God I feel bad about that right you feel the regret you feel the embarrassment you feel

The frustration you feel the regret you feel the embarrassment you feel the frustration the anger the sadness whatever the negative feelings come up right I will die on the

hill that those feelings are not the problem, right?

Like we should have negative emotions when bad things happen in our lives or when we've made

poor choices. Like those negative emotions are there to try to get us to not make those choices again.

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