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In the New Testament Book of Hebrew slash marriage When you can treat God's gift of sex in your marriage with respect, you can experience

deeper intimacy as a couple. I'm John Fuller along with Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife

Aaron and we're going to hear more of a conversation today that Jim

Daly had with Bill and Pam Farrell who describes some creative ways for showing

sexual interest to your spouse with something they called code words. You talk about code words in

red hot monogamy. What is a code word? Well it really goes back to Red Hot

Monogamy book has eight chapters in it.

So we're really drawing on the advice of that real couple in the Bible.

I mean, God obviously thought sex was important because he put a whole book there that talks about

red-hot monogamy and we think that sex was God's secret a long time before it was Victoria's

secret so let's reclaim that gift. And that real life couple they

use codes when they were interested in giving out the clue, baby I'm a want

you. Because it's so personal and it's something that's so

private between the two of you that if you make it too raw it loses interest

over time so you can't just walk in the house and say how about now

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