This is The Authentic Sex Podcast, real-life conversations about sex, pleasure and relationships.

I'm your host, Juliet Allen.

Welcome to this episode of The Authentic Sex Podcast. My name is Juliette. I'm your host. I'm a sexologist, a sex and

relationship coach and a tantra practitioner. And today I'm chatting about how to keep intimacy

alive in long-term relationships. Now, I'm talking about this topic because a lot of people have emailed me asking for me to talk about it.

And I'm also talking about it because a lot of my coaching clients come to me with this challenge,

which is, hey, I've been in a long-term relationship for, or I've been in a relationship for X amount of time

and we are not having sex or one of us wants sex more than the other

or we're just plain bored and want to spice things up.

So today's about, I guess it's about getting back to basics

with intimacy, because saying intimacy is a little bit different to sex, but it's all going to go

into one in this episode. So I'm just going to go into one in this episode.

So I'm just going to go through, like, things that I feel have helped me in past relationships and things that help me in my current relationship with a lover.

So number one is, firstly, you've got to prioritize sex if you're in a long-term relationship.

Often what can happen is at the start of a relationship the sex is happening very frequently and is very

exciting and it's all new and there's a lot of amazing experiences happening and you're exploring each

other's bodies and there's like butterflies and it's fun and exciting well that that's how it

i feel how it probably should start out if you want it to um have any hope for for it to continue

that way or to revisit those feelings throughout your relationship so um what happens is then we get into life and you know,

you're both working lots and you have children and you get married and all these things

that people seem to do, you know, if you're into all that traditional stuff which I i can't see say that i've ever really been

into but i doesn't matter because um no matter what yes i've been in long-term relationships

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