What is important to me? Is it important that I buy the biggest house available or is it about buying a house on a neighborhood that feels safe and that's what's important to me or is it about having the newest car or is it really important to me maybe that I buy a used car that I think is going to take really great care of my family so that I'm

not you know creating another vehicle is what is actually the most important

thing to me is like where am I shopping what

brands am I supporting am I growing my own food who am I buying my food from what kind of

clothes my wearing where they made in sweatshops is that important to me to prioritize that and it's really just

these little things about being actively engaged in what's going on in your

life versus sort of sleepwalking through these decisions of,

well, I've always lived here

and I've, or I've always done this work,

or my parents always ate that food.

I don't, I don't really know how to cook, I guess.

And, you know, well, this is the school closest to us.

That's where I'm gonna to send my kids I think

it's really important to be actively engaged in those choices and align them

with what is uniquely important in what your priorities are and we live in a society that doesn't

support that you know when we I mean what Nate pick something right you know say

we've got a parent who says you know I really don't want my kids to eat dairy.

It's likely that a lot of the other parents in that child's world is going to give

them pushback. They're going to criticize them. Maybe that kid gets, you know,

pushback because they're the only kid not drinking dairy milk at school or something you know so it can be tricky it's so much easier to conform and to not speak up or to to stand up for something or to live in alignment with your values because it's

likely that you'll receive criticism pushback and likely from people who love you

because they're often attached to your old habits or your old priorities, which included them.

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