Kate Moyle: Dating, boundaries and sexual empowerment

Dial Emma

Emma Reed Turrell

Society & Culture, Relationships, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 20 October 2025

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Welcome back to Dial Emma! Each week, I'll be answering your dilemmas with honesty, empathy, and a few therapeutic truth bombs to help you make sense of life's stickiest moments. If you've ever wished you had a therapist in your back pocket, Dial Emma is here to help.

This week, we hear from a 31-year-old listener who is struggling to set boundaries around sex and dating. This listener feels fearful of disappointing potential partners or ending up alone altogether, and often finds herself prioritising their desires over her own wants and needs.

To help me unpack this dilemma, I'm joined by Kate Moyle, a psychosexual therapist and certified psycho-sexologist who aims to normalise conversations around sex and empower us all to make informed decisions about our sexual lives.

We explore the complexities of dating, boundaries, sexual empowerment and consent, the impact of societal norms on sexual experiences, and the psychological aspects of anxiety and avoidance in sexual relationships. Kate also talks about the need for open communication in relationships, getting to know our personal desires, and the role of better sex education in fostering a healthier relationship with our sexuality.

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0:00.0	This podcast is sponsored by ProteinWorks, on a mission to help you feel good and smash your goals through the power of nutrition.
0:09.1	Hello and welcome to Dial Emma, the podcast where your dilemmas meet my therapeutic insights.
0:15.7	I'm Emma Reid-Torrell, psychotherapist, author and well-recovering people-pleaser.
0:20.3	Each week, I'll be unpacking
0:21.8	real-life questions from listeners just like you. The big ones, the small ones, the ones that keep you
0:27.3	up at night, offering practical tools and gentle truths to help you find your way through. So if
0:33.6	you've got a question, you don't know how to ask out loud. You've come to the right place.
0:45.5	Welcome back to Dial Emma, and I am so delighted that I have a very special guest joining me today to unpack a very particular type of dilemma. So I want to
0:56.3	introduce the wonderful Kate Moyle. Kate Moyle is a psychosexual and relationship therapist and a
1:02.0	psychosexologist, which as I just said in our brief conversation reminds me more of a kind of a serial
1:07.1	killer than, you know, someone I might take my deepest intimate thoughts to, but I want
1:11.2	to understand more about what a psychosexologist is. Kate also hosts her own podcast series called the
1:17.4	Sexual Wellness Sessions. And in 2023, she published a book called The Science of Sex.
1:22.4	So this is our absolute expert today, because we have a fabulous dilemma for you. So first of all,
1:30.2	I'm just going to say, hi, Kate, and thank you so much for being here. Hi, thank you.
1:35.4	Not a serial killer. No. I hope. Or quite a sensation, I hope. Just a psychosexologist.
1:42.1	You made me laugh so much when you said it. I think just the word, I mean,
1:46.4	the word psycho at the start of anything kind of brings up, you know, average Hitchcock connotations,
1:51.7	doesn't it? Absolutely. And then you chuck the word sex in and we spiral, right? Panic.
1:56.6	Absolute panic. Okay, brilliant. So now we've cleared that up.
2:00.9	I am going to read out our dilemma today.
2:03.6	So Kate, listen along with me.
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