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Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Just Say NO: How Doing Less Is More w/ Jeff Bethke.

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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Talk Radio, Christianity, Religion & Spirituality, Default

4.8 • 808 Ratings

🗓️ 16 April 2019

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

Are you the type of person who has a hard time saying no? Because if so, the inability to say no is likely going to start impacting your health, as well as the health of your relationships. If you’re anything like the average American, you’re probably feeling burned-out and spread thin. We live in a society that has absolutely no margin. We’re so caught up in the rat race of life that we’ve lost our ability to rest, to breathe, to think, to pray, and to have space in our life to do the only thing God has called us to do: love Him and love others well. Today’s caller is feeling just that. He’s having a hard time learning to say no, and his guilt has caused him to over-commit and over-schedule, and now he’s feeling like he’s got nothing left to give to those around him. Just Say No Learning the power of no is something we don’t talk about enough as Christians. We wrongly believe that showing love automatically means saying yes all the time. But not only is that untrue, it’s also unhealthy. Learning to say no has the power to change our lives and our relationships. To talk through today’s question, I invited my good friend, author and spoken-word-artist Jefferson Bethke, to join me on the Love + Relationships Podcast. One thing I appreciate about Jeff and his wife Alyssa, is their laser-focus and their ability to set boundaries that protect their schedules, their calling, and their family. Today’s conversation is SO SO good, and even if you THINK you are good at saying no and setting boundaries and limits, this podcast episode will likely give you another perspective. Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out episode 35 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Recommended Reading – Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, and Financial Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives.  Connect with Jeff and Alyssa Bethke! For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships – 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

Hey, friends, welcome back to the love and relationships podcast. I'm your host, Deborah Felita,

0:24.0

and I'm so glad you're tuning into these candid conversations about love, sex, dating,

0:29.2

singleness, and marriage. For those of you who don't know me or are tuning in for the first time,

0:33.7

I'm a licensed professional counselor and author specializing in relationship issues.

0:39.3

I also run the Relationship Advice blog True Love Dates.com, reaching millions of people with the

0:44.8

message that healthy people make healthy relationships. If you've tuned into the podcast before,

0:51.1

you know it's a hotline style show, meaning people call in or write in with

0:55.2

their relationship questions and I answer them on this show in short, practical, bite-sized

1:00.3

answers. If you have a question that you want me to answer on the show, send it via email or

1:05.8

voice memo to Deborah at true lovedates.com or check out my podcast page, truelovedates.com slash love and

1:13.2

relationships. And I'll do my best to get it answered on one of the episodes. So let's get

1:17.9

started. Today's question comes from Nathan from West Virginia.

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Hey, Debra, I've realized that in life I tend to be a yes person.

1:36.7

I'm a servant by nature and I have a hard time saying no when people ask for my help or ask me to get involved in church, work, or ministry opportunities.

1:41.0

But I'm feeling exhausted lately and spread too thin.

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And it's starting to impact my relationships.

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How can I get better at saying no? Today on the podcast, I am super excited to have Jeff Bethke joining me to tag team this question today. You might recognize Jeff from his viral

1:57.8

YouTube video a few years ago called Why I Love Jesus, But Hate Religion.

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Since then, Jeff and his wife Alyssa have authored numerous books, including Jesus is

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greater than religion, It's Not What You Think, and love that lasts.

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Jeff and Alyssa live in Maui with their three beautiful children, and I'm so excited to introduce

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you to Jeff today.

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