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So I'm going on a trip and my daughter's coming with me and I was just speaking to one of her friend's moms because I may bring someone.

And the mom was talking to me about safety and, you know, I said we would have at least one or two men if the girls would go get ice cream or something.

The only thing that would be, I said like get ice cream or something. The only thing that

would be, I said, like, I'll be with them. The only time that I wouldn't be with them is, let's say,

I'm at a work thing. And then there is one of the boat members, the crew members, that would be

with the girls to go get ice cream. They won't be alone. And she was like, yeah, because of

trafficking, et cetera. And trafficking is a

brutal concept. And there have been times when my daughter's been with friends and she's been like

in the city and they're going to dinner and, you know, or they're taking a daytime train from the

suburbs into the city. And like, you just cringe a a little like you don't know how hard to go

you know what we did but I think it's a different world and it's terrifying and so you're trying

to convey to your kids the fear but also like they can't know what it's like until they feel

scared about something so like I always say to my daughter you know you don't know what it's like until they feel scared about something. So like I always say to my daughter, you know, you don't know what it's like in Puerto Rico after an earthquake or a hurricane or something when they've lost everything and their waist deep in filthy water and have no electricity. She can't understand that unless I take her. And I haven't yet taken her. The one time I was supposed to take her to North Carolina, she was a really little kid, and she got sick. And I was going to take her to Poland, and it didn't work out. And I'm going to take her. And it's not late because I do this as a part of my life. But I'm going to take her, but I want her to feel it. And in the same way, it's almost like

something happened recently with a friend group and something happened where there was some,

something occurred where there was like a, she got a glimpse of fear. And I was also scared,

but I was also happy because it was like getting in a car and

spilling something at the beginning of the ride. You're like something's going to get spilled. Let's just get out of the way. Meaning like I want her to feel a sense of fear so she knows that like the world isn't so innocent and pure. You want to keep them pure, but you also want them to have a little bit of neuroses and anxiety about being alert, about being a target, about, you know, all these kids they drink, they vape. I don't know if the vaping is pot or what it is, but I don't know what goes on. You know, you want your kids to know, never put your drink down.

And you have those testers, like, how far do you go with it? You want your kids to know.

I mean, I've said to my daughter, we were in Florida walking on the path and I looked down and I said that there's like a baggie there, which even if it's shiny, it looks like it there's jewelry in it, it could be fentanyl.

Like, that's the scary world we live in.

And I don't love that you have to kind of

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