This is the Brand and Sherry podcast, sponsored by MetaShare. For more info about the show or about Brandt's book, Unoffendable, check out brantanson.com. You know, you go in these stores, like fashion places with clothes and they try to be all cool. So they got music, like, really cranked in there. Yeah. Did this last night with my daughter. She went to this place that took her and they had the music, it's like this. It's black. And I said, whoa, this place is cool. It was loud music came in, came in to hear myself, think. Yeah, they're setting a tone and ambiance. 15 minutes before the place is closing. I'm like, yeah, this is pretty cool here. They just turned it off. There was no middle ground. No, they just shut it off, just gone. With 15 minutes left, I'm like, I guess they're trying to say leave. Yes, that's exactly what that is. But it just felt like, so what you're doing is you're going to go, we're not cool anymore. Okay. We need you to leave. This place isn't cool.

Just all of a sudden, I just thought that was so interesting. Yeah, I understand. And then you feel sheepish like you can hear the hangers on the racks and stuff. That's what they want. Exactly. They want you to be self-conscious. Get the thing that you're looking at and get out. Mission accomplished. It went from that fast from, whoa, yeah, check it out, yeah.

Okay, let's go.

Because I feel really lame now. You feel exposed. This isn't cool. It's going to be tough coming up. Maybe you've done this. You have a garage sale. Here's the problem with the garage sales. It's hard not to take them personally. You set out your stuff. To me, it's a very vulnerable position. You're taking your stuff, which at some point you bought it because it meant something to you. So there's a little bit of an attachment there. And you saw a value in it. Like I bought this hockey game, not a video game, but a tabletop hockey game with the poles and you twist them and hit the puck. Oh, sure. It was like $50. Mm-hmm. Right? It was years ago. And now I'm selling it. I don't want people going, oh, that's lame. They're moving on. Like, that's my thing. And who are you? Well, they may not want it. I know, but it's like it's very difficult to divorce yourself from that because it's like, who are you to judge my stuff? But you're the one who set it out there to be judged. You don't want it anymore. Right, but you want everyone else to want it. Right. So I can see why, when you go to a garage sale and there's a guy sitting in a lawn chair and he's real surly. That's why. Okay. Because this stuff... It meant something to me. It meant something.

And then I'm asking garage sale and there's a guy sitting in a lawn chair and he's real surly. That's why. Okay.

Because this stuff.

It meant something to me. It meant something. And then I'm asking you for $5. I pay 50. And you're like, hey, I'll give you a quarter for it. Well, why don't you just take your quarter and get out of here? Because that's terrible. This is going to be a great garage sale. Can I come? Very emotional. You may be a single person. If you are, you're actually in the majority. We were talking about this yesterday among our listeners, as far as we know, demographically, that bears out that most people listening are single. A lot of times in a Christian subtext, in the church, it's presumed, no marriage is the default thing.

That's what everybody should be aiming for.

You know what?

That's not actually biblical.

Isn't that something?

I mean, there's certain things that we believe, and they're just not actually true in the Bible.

Like, everybody should get married.

Not at all.

And here's God taking human flesh. This is a a basis for our faith if you're a believer in

Jesus that he is who he said he was and he's single wow what would Jesus do would he get

well he didn't and I don't think that that's a that means don't I'm married the way, but the idea that that's the default thing is just isn't true.

And then Jesus does something really crazy, comes along and redefines family itself.

Like we tend to make an idol out of families.

Like, it's all that matters is my family.

Okay, I understand that feeling.

That's pretty natural.

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