Judging Others - Moving from Guilt to Great - Guilt is a Path to Compassion

The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni: Emotional Abuse and Relationship Expert

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.5 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 5 February 2017

⏱️ 63 minutes

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Summary

Judging others is a sign of something you're struggling with or haven't healed from internally. It is anger, sadness, or some other bad feeling that you haven't yet processed that is coming out and being directed at other people. You can say, "What they're doing is wrong!" but how is it wrong to you? Is it a belief or value you hold to be true, or is it something deeper like some other emotional wound that you haven't yet released? Also, how do you deal with judgmental people? If your significant other or a friend or family member is putting someone else down, what do you say or do? It's a great topic to talk about and I share a way you can work with it and maybe even reach a more peaceful place inside yourself. In segment 2, I talk about how to release your hold on guilt. I read a letter from a woman who feels terrible about how she treated her ex-husband. In fact, she feels so bad that her current marriage is suffering. I offer a perspective and a way out of guilt that may just allow you to let go of what you've been regretting for far too long now. Guilt can lead to a place of compassion and it's this one possibility that can lead you out of a dark place and into the light. It's time to release the guilt. It doesn't mean you suddenly feel good, but it's a great start. Today's episode is brought to you by getoutofthemess.com, legal insurance that you can use anytime you have a question or need advice.

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0:00.0	Are you tired of that same old rehashed personal growth advice that all seems to boil down to think positively and all your problems will go away.
0:14.0	If affirmations feel like lies and positive thinking feels like denial,
0:18.0	then I want you to get ready.
0:20.0	The overwhelmed brain is here to help you create the life you want now. Hello this is Paul Kolyani, personal empowerment coach and host of this show called The Overwhelmed Brain and this is the personal growth show for the critical thinker
0:46.7	On every episode we'll talk about practical down-to-earth steps to help you improve your mood and keep you sane in this powerful journey we call life.
0:56.0	I want to help you bridge the gap between your emotions and reason, causing you to discover
1:01.0	why you do the things you do and what you can do to reach higher levels
1:04.9	of happiness and lower levels of stress and overwhelm.
1:08.5	Everything I talk about in this show should not be mistaken for actual medical advice or treatment and is intended to be for
1:14.1	informational and educational purposes only. Always consult a physician
1:18.0	before making any changes to your medical treatment. Today I had a call
1:21.8	with someone that gave me some really great feedback on what to cover on the show and also asked me a question regarding judgment that I wanted to share with you on the air today.
1:36.3	So I did have an episode recently on judgment and how when you look at someone else and you judge them for something that they're doing or something
1:48.8	that they are, like what they look like or where they come from.
1:54.0	Whenever you're judging outwardly,
1:57.5	it's reflecting something that you're either struggling with inwardly or haven't healed from inside yourself, whenever there's
2:07.7	any type of external judgment of any kind, like she said, her husband judges other people and it offends her because she'll hear the
2:16.7	words come out of his mouth and she's like, how can you look at someone and judge them?
2:21.6	You don't even know them.
2:22.4	You don't even know what their struggles are,
2:24.4	what their history is, but he has these judgments inside of him.
2:28.2	And what that is is some negative energy inside of him being expressed outwardly.
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